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3 things to say to the dying
When my father lay dying in the hospital nearly 20 years ago, I flew home to spend time with him. I spent most of my time sitting at his bedside. To be honest, I hadn’t a lot of experience in keeping vigil. My father was not much of a talker and his illness didn’t make it easy for him to initiate conversation. I spent most of the time offering to adjust his pillow or get him something to drink. I sat, read magazines, and chatted with the nurses as they came and went. I wish I had known what to say to my father. In hindsight, it would have made the experience so much more meaningful for both of us.
Over the years, I’ve had many people tell me of similar situations, describing the awkwardness they felt as their loved one lay dying. I’ve even known family members who stayed away from the hospital for fear of not knowing what to do or say to their loved ones.
That is why I want to share 3 practical suggestions, three things you can say that will help make the dying experience more meaningful and comforting for all of you in the room.
Firstly, tell your loved one you love them. We all want to know that we are loved.
Secondly, tell your loved one how much they have meant to you. Don’t be afraid to share specific examples of the way they touched you and impacted your life.
